{"id":10210,"date":"2016-07-15T12:33:32","date_gmt":"2016-07-15T16:33:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/uropcbrp.com\/?p=10210"},"modified":"2020-08-28T14:05:39","modified_gmt":"2020-08-28T14:05:39","slug":"engaging-in-hard-conversations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/courses.lsa.umich.edu\/dcerp\/2016\/07\/15\/engaging-in-hard-conversations\/","title":{"rendered":"Engaging in Hard Conversations"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>About three weeks into the program, I took a trip to Atlanta for the weekend. Unfortunately, my departing\u00a0flight was delayed for an hour and a half. As I was sitting in the McNamara terminal, a tall, middle aged man took a seat across from me. We engaged in small talk for a few moments. In the short conversation that followed, I learned\u00a0that he was from Panama City, Florida, was an avid supporter of Donald Trump, and that he couldn&#8217;t wait to catch his connecting flight and get home.<\/p>\n<p>He asked me if I was from Michigan. I happily replied that I was. I explained that\u00a0I had grown up in the suburbs, but recently started living and working in Detroit for an internship.\u00a0His expression suddenly turned grim.\u00a0&#8220;Oh, really? And how is that going?&#8221; He went on, &#8220;You know how you have a mental image of places\u00a0when you hear about them? Well, I&#8217;ve never had a good picture when it comes to Michigan.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><em>Here we go.\u00a0<\/em>I thought. I was curious to know who or what was painting such an ugly picture for him. I think I already knew the answer.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Does everything you know about Michigan come from things you&#8217;ve heard about Detroit?&#8221; I asked him, in what was probably an accusatory tone.<\/p>\n<p>He confirmed this with a nod, and body language that said <em>well duh<\/em>. He explained he had only been to the area\u00a0for business, and never really\u00a0cared to explore outside of the walls of the skyscrapers he&#8217;s visited.<\/p>\n<p>I emphasized\u00a0that the narrative he had heard in the media <strong>will not be and should not be<\/strong> the narrative he hears in the future &#8211; that the narrative he hears now neglects the voice of the communities that I&#8217;ve seen thriving in the short time I&#8217;ve been here. I know the narrative that he is hearing is tainted by an outsider&#8217;s lens. <em>I wish the\u00a0stories about the good people in Detroit got as much attention as those stories that focus on corruption, bankruptcy, blight, and that damn M-1\u00a0rail.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I challenged him to come back soon, and venture out of the exclusive\u00a0downtown area. I told him that there are many tight knit communities that are and <strong>have been<\/strong> working to bring about positive community change for decades. I challenged him to visit the beautiful art parks, bike paths, museums, theaters, and eateries\u00a0that sprinkle the city, and\u00a0give it it&#8217;s unique and colorful personality.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, my insights seemed to fall upon deaf ears.&#8221;Don&#8217;t worry,&#8221; he started, &#8220;Trump will fix it.&#8221;\u00a0I laughed nervously as I realized he was &#8211; for some\u00a0reason &#8211; trying to console me. He could not see that that type of top-down, invasive change was exactly why I am worried.<\/p>\n<p>Detroit is not and has never been a city that &#8220;needed saved&#8221; by anyone. Perhaps the first step &#8211; the step that is so often skipped\u00a0&#8211; is simply to\u00a0<strong>engage in conversations and actually listen to<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>those that live here and are most effected by the decisions that are made. <em>You know, instead of hiring an emergency manager in an attempt to silence their voices.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>As a middle-class, suburbanite I cannot by any means articulate the problems faced by\u00a0long-time Detroiters. But the very least I can do is\u00a0advocate against ignorance.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>About three weeks into the program, I took a trip to Atlanta for the weekend. Unfortunately, my departing\u00a0flight was delayed for an hour and a half. As I was sitting in the McNamara terminal, a tall, middle aged man took a seat across from me. We engaged in small talk for a few moments. 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